Helping multiples and their loved ones to remember the music
| About Littles |
Littles are very special members of your inside family. They are children who got to a certain age and got stuck and didn't grow up. It can be very hard sometimes to give them the time they need to do the things they need to do. Little things count though.
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| It can be helpful to think of littles as you would outside children. Compromises work if you aren't able to give them exactly what they want. The most important thing for littles to learn is that you love them and so do your helpers, and that you are going to keep them safe now. |
You littles have been hurt very badly over the years. They have never learned about "good touches" or saying no. They have probably never known what it was like to have someone care for them. They are frightened and confused and hurting.
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| It is important to give them time to cry and talk, to write and draw and do anything else they need to express those feelings. It is also important to start teaching them the things they were never taught when you were a child. Let them spend time with the good people in your life now (even if thats only your therapist). Cuddle and rock them and teach them about good touch and saying no to bad touch. Teach them that it is ok to let you know how they are feling. Give them times to just be kids who don't have to worry about evil people hurting them. |
While it is sometimes necessary to conceal them, it is not always as necessary as you think. Most people only see what they want to see. If someone sees you in a toy store, they will not assume you are a multiple taking your littles shopping. They will assume you are buying a present for your child or niece or someone. If you buy a happy meal at mcdonalds, people will assume you want a small meal or that you are one of those people that collects the toys. If you go to a kids movie people will assume you are fed up with the crud thats on movie screens today and opted for more wholesome entertainment or some other reason they make up in their mind. Point is, in most cases, as long as you try not to be overly obvious, nobody will notice when you take your littles out to do something special.
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| The most important thing you can give your littles is unconditional love and understanding. Give them the attention and concern you wish you had received as a child. And don't push them to grow up until they are ready, and if they are never ready that is ok too. |
| Click here for some ideas of fun things to do with littles |
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